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Marriage & Before Marriage

Conflict and Repair Behaviour Check

Notice how arguments happen, how apologies are made and how calm returns.

Important: This free behaviour assessment is for awareness and guidance. It is not medical, psychiatric or legal advice. If you are facing abuse, trauma symptoms, self-harm thoughts or immediate danger, contact a qualified professional or emergency support in your area.

1. I slow down and focus on solving one issue at a time in our relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stay with the current issue instead of bringing old issues.
Take a short break and return to finish the conversation.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

2. My partner slows down and focuses on solving one issue at a time in our relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stays with the current issue instead of bringing old issues.
Takes a short break and returns to finish the conversation.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

3. I say sorry without adding excuses or blaming the other person in our relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Saying: “I am sorry I hurt you.”
Saying: “I should have handled that differently.”

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

4. My partner says sorry without adding excuses or blaming me in our relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Saying: “I am sorry I hurt you.”
Saying: “I should have handled that differently.”

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

5. I say what I need before I can move forward after hurt in our relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Name the change needed for trust.
Avoid pretending everything is fine when it is not.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

6. My partner says what they need before they can move forward after hurt in our relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Names the change needed for trust.
Does not pretend everything is fine when it is not.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

7. I slow down and focus on solving one issue at a time in our relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stay with the current issue instead of bringing old issues.
Take a short break and return to finish the conversation.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

8. My partner slows down and focuses on solving one issue at a time in our relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stays with the current issue instead of bringing old issues.
Takes a short break and returns to finish the conversation.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

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Result

Dimension scores

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