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Dating & Choosing a Partner

Dating Closeness Behaviour Check

Notice how reassurance, pace, distance and closeness are handled while dating.

Important: This free behaviour assessment is for awareness and guidance. It is not medical, psychiatric or legal advice. If you are facing abuse, trauma symptoms, self-harm thoughts or immediate danger, contact a qualified professional or emergency support in your area.

1. I say when I need reassurance instead of repeatedly checking or testing while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Ask one direct question instead of sending many anxious messages.
Say what made me feel unsure.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

2. My partner says when they need reassurance instead of repeatedly checking or testing while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Asks one direct question instead of sending many anxious messages.
Says what made them feel unsure.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

3. I take small, visible steps around listening and closeness while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Notice what is happening around listening and closeness.
Choose one respectful next step.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

4. My partner takes small, visible steps around listening and closeness while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Notices what is happening around listening and closeness.
Chooses one respectful next step.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

5. I protect respect, safety and free choice while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Stop when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoid pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

6. My partner protects respect, safety and free choice while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Stops when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoids pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

7. I move at a pace that feels respectful and not rushed while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Avoid pushing for commitment before trust is built.
Check comfort before increasing closeness.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

8. My partner moves at a pace that feels respectful and not rushed while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Does not push for commitment before trust is built.
Checks comfort before increasing closeness.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

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