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Relationship Health & Safety Checks

Self-Focus Behaviour Check

Notice behaviours around empathy, special treatment, image and responsibility.

Important: This free behaviour assessment is for awareness and guidance. It is not medical, psychiatric or legal advice. If you are facing abuse, trauma symptoms, self-harm thoughts or immediate danger, contact a qualified professional or emergency support in your area.

1. I try to understand the other person before judging in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Ask what the other person meant.
Notice if someone sounds hurt, tired or worried.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

2. The other person tries to understand me before judging in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Asks what I meant.
Notices if I sound hurt, tired or worried.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

3. I protect respect, safety and free choice in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stop when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoid pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

4. The other person protects respect, safety and free choice in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stops when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoids pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

5. I protect respect, safety and free choice in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stop when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoid pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

6. The other person protects respect, safety and free choice in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stops when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoids pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

7. I take my fair share of tasks without repeated reminders in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Complete agreed tasks without waiting to be pushed.
Notice work that is usually invisible, such as planning or reminders.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

8. The other person takes their fair share of tasks without repeated reminders in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Completes agreed tasks without waiting to be pushed.
Notices work that is usually invisible, such as planning or reminders.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

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Result

Dimension scores

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