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Dating & Choosing a Partner

Red Flag Behaviour Check

Notice early behaviours linked to control, disrespect, inconsistency or blame.

Important: This free behaviour assessment is for awareness and guidance. It is not medical, psychiatric or legal advice. If you are facing abuse, trauma symptoms, self-harm thoughts or immediate danger, contact a qualified professional or emergency support in your area.

1. I protect respect, safety and free choice while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Stop when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoid pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

2. My partner protects respect, safety and free choice while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Stops when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoids pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

3. I act steadily so the relationship does not feel unpredictable while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Keep routines and promises as far as possible.
Avoid sudden coldness after a disagreement.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

4. My partner acts steadily so the relationship does not feel unpredictable while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Keeps routines and promises as far as possible.
Avoids sudden coldness after a disagreement.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

5. I show respect and care through small daily actions while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Notice effort and respond warmly.
Avoid mocking, ignoring or putting the other person down.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

6. My partner shows respect and care through small daily actions while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Notices effort and responds warmly.
Avoids mocking, ignoring or putting me down.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

7. I take my fair share of tasks without repeated reminders while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Complete agreed tasks without waiting to be pushed.
Notice work that is usually invisible, such as planning or reminders.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

8. My partner takes their fair share of tasks without repeated reminders while dating.

Examples you can observe:

Completes agreed tasks without waiting to be pushed.
Notices work that is usually invisible, such as planning or reminders.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

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Result

Dimension scores

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