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Relationship Health & Safety Checks

Stress After Hurt Behaviour Check

Notice behaviours that may appear after frightening or hurtful experiences.

Important: This free behaviour assessment is for awareness and guidance. It is not medical, psychiatric or legal advice. If you are facing abuse, trauma symptoms, self-harm thoughts or immediate danger, contact a qualified professional or emergency support in your area.

1. I take small, visible steps around unwanted memories in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Notice what is happening around unwanted memories.
Choose one respectful next step.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

2. The other person takes small, visible steps around unwanted memories in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Notices what is happening around unwanted memories.
Chooses one respectful next step.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

3. I protect respect, safety and free choice in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stop when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoid pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

4. The other person protects respect, safety and free choice in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stops when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoids pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

5. I protect respect, safety and free choice in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stop when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoid pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

6. The other person protects respect, safety and free choice in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Stops when someone says they feel unsafe.
Avoids pressure, threats, blame or mind games.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

7. I take small, visible steps around mood changes in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Notice what is happening around mood changes.
Choose one respectful next step.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

8. The other person takes small, visible steps around mood changes in this relationship.

Examples you can observe:

Notices what is happening around mood changes.
Chooses one respectful next step.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

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Result

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