Most relationship problems do not begin as one big event. They usually build through repeated small moments: a tone that hurts, a need that is not spoken, a boundary that is crossed, or a repair that never happens.

A relationship assessment helps you pause and notice the pattern. It does not label you or the other person. It gives language to what is happening so that you can choose a better next response.

Start by asking three questions: What do I usually do under stress? What does the other person experience from me? What one behaviour can I practise this week?