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Understanding Yourself in Relationships

Closeness and Reassurance Behaviour Check

Notice how you and the other person behave when you need closeness, space, trust or reassurance.

Important: This free behaviour assessment is for awareness and guidance. It is not medical, psychiatric or legal advice. If you are facing abuse, trauma symptoms, self-harm thoughts or immediate danger, contact a qualified professional or emergency support in your area.

1. I stay steady instead of testing the relationship when I feel unsure in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Ask directly for reassurance instead of creating drama.
Notice care through actions instead of assuming rejection.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

2. The other person stays steady instead of testing the relationship when they feel unsure in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Asks directly for reassurance instead of creating drama.
Notices care through actions instead of assuming rejection.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

3. I make space for closeness without losing my own space in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Spend time together and still respect personal routines.
Share feelings without demanding constant attention.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

4. The other person makes space for closeness without taking over my space in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Spends time together and still respects personal routines.
Shares feelings without demanding constant attention.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

5. I say when I need reassurance instead of blaming or testing in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Saying: “I am feeling unsure and need some reassurance.”
Saying: “Can we talk about what happened instead of guessing?”

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

6. The other person says when they need reassurance instead of blaming or testing in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Saying: “I am feeling unsure and need some reassurance.”
Saying: “Can we talk about what happened instead of guessing?”

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

7. I respect personal time and space without making it feel like rejection in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Take time for my own interests and stay connected.
Give space without withdrawing affection.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

8. The other person respects personal time and space without making it feel like rejection in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Takes time for their own interests and stays connected.
Gives space without withdrawing affection.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

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Result

Dimension scores

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