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Understanding Yourself in Relationships

Disagreement Behaviour Check

Notice what you and the other person do during disagreements and after them.

Important: This free behaviour assessment is for awareness and guidance. It is not medical, psychiatric or legal advice. If you are facing abuse, trauma symptoms, self-harm thoughts or immediate danger, contact a qualified professional or emergency support in your area.

1. I slow down and focus on solving one issue at a time in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Stay with the current issue instead of bringing old issues.
Take a short break and return to finish the conversation.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

2. The other person slows down and focuses on solving one issue at a time in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Stays with the current issue instead of bringing old issues.
Takes a short break and returns to finish the conversation.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

3. I slow down and focus on solving one issue at a time in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Stay with the current issue instead of bringing old issues.
Take a short break and return to finish the conversation.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

4. The other person slows down and focuses on solving one issue at a time in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Stays with the current issue instead of bringing old issues.
Takes a short break and returns to finish the conversation.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

5. I say what I did wrong and what I will do differently in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Apologise for the specific behaviour.
Check later whether the other person feels better.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

6. The other person says what they did wrong and what they will do differently in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Apologises for the specific behaviour.
Checks later whether I feel better.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

7. I slow down and focus on solving one issue at a time in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Stay with the current issue instead of bringing old issues.
Take a short break and return to finish the conversation.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

8. The other person slows down and focuses on solving one issue at a time in close relationships.

Examples you can observe:

Stays with the current issue instead of bringing old issues.
Takes a short break and returns to finish the conversation.

Almost never Rarely Sometimes Often Almost always

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Result

Dimension scores

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