They threaten to harm themselves if I leave
Anonymous discussion. Educational guidance only; not medical, psychiatric, legal or emergency advice.
When I try to end or pause the relationship, they say they may harm themselves. I feel trapped and responsible.
Threats of self-harm must be taken seriously, but they should not be handled alone or used to trap you in a relationship.
This may involve safety risk. Educational guidance is not enough when there is violence, coercion, threats, stalking, forced isolation, child safety risk, self-harm risk or serious intimidation. In such cases, prioritise immediate safety and local professional or emergency support.
Before acting, separate facts, feelings, needs and patterns. A relationship improves when people can name the pattern without attacking the person.
Practical next steps
Contact emergency services, a trusted family member of theirs or a mental health crisis resource. Do not keep the threat secret.
If there is immediate danger, call local emergency services or contact trusted people who can help you get safe. Do not rely on an online answer for urgent risk.
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