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Phone privacy has become a trust issue
One of us wants phone privacy and the other feels suspicious. It has become a repeated argument about passwords, messages and social media. What is healthy?
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They lied about something small
The lie was about a small matter, but it makes me wonder what else may be hidden. Am I overreacting?
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I cannot stop feeling jealous
I feel jealous when my partner talks to certain people. I know it may be my insecurity, but the feeling becomes strong.
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My partner wants all my passwords
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They promise change but repeat the same thing
The other person apologises and promises change, but the same behaviour repeats. I am losing faith in the words.
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I hide things to avoid conflict
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Social media boundaries are unclear
We disagree about liking posts, following exes, private messages or posting pictures. What is reasonable?
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I need reassurance often
I frequently need reassurance that the relationship is okay. The other person says it is exhausting.
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I feel controlled in the name of trust
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