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They monitor my phone and location

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My partner checks my phone, tracks my location or demands proof of where I am. They say it is love and trust.

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IIR Guide

Monitoring is a control behaviour when it removes privacy and creates fear of normal independence.

This may involve safety risk. Educational guidance is not enough when there is violence, coercion, threats, stalking, forced isolation, child safety risk, self-harm risk or serious intimidation. In such cases, prioritise immediate safety and local professional or emergency support.

Before acting, separate facts, feelings, needs and patterns. A relationship improves when people can name the pattern without attacking the person.


Practical next steps

Avoid confronting alone if you fear escalation. Get support and plan safe digital boundaries.

If there is immediate danger, call local emergency services or contact trusted people who can help you get safe. Do not rely on an online answer for urgent risk.

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