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They control money or access to essentials

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They control spending, take my salary, restrict bank access or make me ask for basic needs.

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Financial control can be a form of abuse because it limits freedom and options.

This may involve safety risk. Educational guidance is not enough when there is violence, coercion, threats, stalking, forced isolation, child safety risk, self-harm risk or serious intimidation. In such cases, prioritise immediate safety and local professional or emergency support.

Before acting, separate facts, feelings, needs and patterns. A relationship improves when people can name the pattern without attacking the person.


Practical next steps

Start documenting finances safely and speak to trusted support or local services about a practical safety plan.

If there is immediate danger, call local emergency services or contact trusted people who can help you get safe. Do not rely on an online answer for urgent risk.

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