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I feel unsafe but keep doubting myself

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Part of me knows something is wrong, but another part says maybe I am exaggerating or provoking it.

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Self-doubt is common when control, blame or fear have been repeated over time.

This may involve safety risk. Educational guidance is not enough when there is violence, coercion, threats, stalking, forced isolation, child safety risk, self-harm risk or serious intimidation. In such cases, prioritise immediate safety and local professional or emergency support.

Before acting, separate facts, feelings, needs and patterns. A relationship improves when people can name the pattern without attacking the person.

Practical next steps

Write down incidents factually and share them with a trusted person or professional who can help you assess risk.

If there is immediate danger, call local emergency services or contact trusted people who can help you get safe. Do not rely on an online answer for urgent risk.

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