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My manager only notices mistakes

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My manager gives feedback mostly when something goes wrong. I feel anxious and underappreciated.

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Feedback imbalance can reduce motivation and psychological safety.

Workplace relationships work best when expectations, roles and communication channels are explicit. The aim is to protect dignity while staying professional, documented and solution-focused.

Before acting, separate facts, feelings, needs and patterns. A relationship improves when people can name the pattern without attacking the person.

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Ask for a structured check-in: what to continue, what to improve and what success looks like.

Use one calm sentence: "The pattern I want us to change is..." Then ask, "What can each of us do differently this week?"

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